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vizhenz
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Posted: Apr 15th, 2006 03:22 PM |
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| What is it with women being so jealous of other women and trying to tear other women down...bad mouthing them or trying to break up relationships? Why is it a issue of who goes with who? When a sister see another sister doing her thang and making it why is it always some hating or dislike? Is it because she aint doing it or following her dream?
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Queenbee163
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Posted: Apr 17th, 2006 01:14 AM |
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Good Question Viz!!! I Don't Know Why Women- Especially Black Women Love to Tear Each Other Down. A lot of Jealousy, Envy, and Hate... Other Races Get So Much Further Because They Work Together and Try To Build Each Other Up- But Not Us... It's a Sad Situation.
I Think A Lot of the Drama Stems From Self-Esteem Issues. If You Are Not Happy With Who You Are and What You Are - Then Women Have a Hard Time Accepting the Beauty of Another Sister. You Must Learn to Love Yourself Before You Can Possibly Know How to Love Another.
Most Of the Shopping That Women Do - To Buy the Hottest, Latest, Trendiest Outfit - Isn't To Please Herself or to Even Look Good For Herself or Even Her Man, It's Mainly To Make Sure She Looks Better Than The Next Chick. What's Up With That??? That's Crazy!!! We Spent So So Much Time Trying to Impress and Gain Approval From Someone that We Claim We Can't Stand.
What A Lot of Women Fail to Realize is That Inner Beauty Outshines Anything That You Could Ever Possibly Do to Your Outer Beauty. No Matter How Beautiful Your Outfit Maybe, or How Well- Manicured Your Nails May Be, Or How Laid Your Mane May Be - If You Have Hell and Hate In Your Heart Flushing Out Your Inner Beauty - That Will Flow Outward and Cause You To Be the Ugliest Person.
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vizhenz
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Posted: May 21st, 2006 10:53 AM |
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I thought more of the sister would add something to this thread where yall at????
....At work I found out it aint only the damn women it is the men too…
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Posted: Jun 1st, 2006 05:38 PM |
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| From what I've experienced, women tend to see their own faults when they see another woman accomplishing things. Instead of dealing with themselves, they decide to tear the other woman down. I guess they think that if they focus on the next one's wrongs, their own wrongs won't seem as bad. We go through so much, that having another sista compliment us (sincerely) is a rare occurence. It's unfortunate that we can't recognize and appreciate the beauty in ourselves and our sistas.
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Dymon J
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Posted: Jun 1st, 2006 06:22 PM |
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I'm not a woman, but my ex was jealous as hell. And the reason was insecurity. And this is what made it known.
In the movie "Something's Gotta Give", There was a part when Jack Nicholas went to France to find Diane Keaton because he ended up having feelings for her after all. But she already moved on With Keanu Reeeves, and they been together 2 years. he caught up with them at her favorite restaraunt, and was insisted by Reeves to join them at the table. They talked and had a good time. After Jack takes care of the bill, he leaves and go to a bridge where one could see the Paris skyline, and both sides of the village. There he was thinking back on when they were togther. All of a sudden Diane shows up to be with him. When he asked her what is she doing there she says "He asked me if I wanted to be with you, and I said yes. And he said 'Then go to him'". At that point I made a comment saying "Typical Hollywood love story. It wouldn't go down like that in real life". All of a sudden she got mad, and asked would I do that for her, and it ended up being a big argument.
And the only reason for me saying what I said is becasue I don't see a man letting a woman go that easily without something to say. ESPECIALLY if they've already been together for 2 years. We was arguing like we was watching something on Lifetime. So from my experience, jealousy can be started by insecurity.
Last edited on Jun 1st, 2006 06:28 PM by Dymon J
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Posted: Jun 1st, 2006 07:11 PM |
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beautifulbrown wrote: From what I've experienced, women tend to see their own faults when they see another woman accomplishing things. Instead of dealing with themselves, they decide to tear the other woman down. I guess they think that if they focus on the next one's wrongs, their own wrongs won't seem as bad. We go through so much, that having another sista compliment us (sincerely) is a rare occurence. It's unfortunate that we can't recognize and appreciate the beauty in ourselves and our sistas. SO TRUE SO TRUE
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Posted: Jun 12th, 2006 01:27 AM |
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man!!!!!!! Queenbee!!!! girl you killed it!!!! .....what u saud is sooooo trueeeeeeeee!!!!!!....man I don't even know how to comment off it now because of how good you put it....yo you hit the nail on the head!!!.......and that goes for men and women/
You Must Learn to Love Yourself Before You Can Possibly Know How to Love Another.
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now I want to speak on that breaking up relationship part that Vizhenz stated...if a woman ain't happy in her relationship she is defintitely going to aim at someone else's so that she isn't happy and this is where it gets tricky.....cause even if she is happy she will "still" try to break up someone elses so she can make hers better than the others!!!!!!!......now that I don't understand but it just boils down to "ego" there.....cause I've seen some happy females who still try to break someone else's relationship up that was doing good with themselves!!! just so they can say there's is better than hers.....do u feel me???..........(((trifling))).....or it could be that they are just not truly happy???....I don't know for a fact.......something else too, people in general and not just sisters, but men too, are not willing to make that sacrafice to do what they got to do to get to the top or make it/ kiss ass, clean floors, shovel snow, waiter, all of that dirt work....so when they do make it you get the people who didn't do that hating their ass off saying this and that about them....I wish I would be there when it would be going on cause I would say..."shut the hell up n****!!!!"....if you worked hard as I worked and did what I did than you would be where I'm at now and if you don't want to be where I'm at now then shut the hell up and keep my name out your mouth....cause I "bust my ass" while your "ass just bust!!"
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vizhenz
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Posted: Jun 12th, 2006 12:03 PM |
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A man so call friend is a female in which that female have told him things of another female in which he is seeing and he been with this woman for a few months and he takes another’s word over the woman he so call loves. Assuming the gossip is true he breaks up with her. And then tells her a few months later after he sees how his so called female friend played him….my friend went through this BS and now the guy is trying to ease his way back in…the only thing is how could you trust a man like this, that takes another’s lying words over yours better yet just went with the gossip without letting her speak on it or to this woman….how she know if he wont do it again. Once a fool is always a fool
Head games I think are the number one problems in any relationship. When a man or woman go on he say she say.
Jealous women don’t love themselves! How could they when they see another sister happy and doing good in a relationship or not it is always some hate and then the rumors…belittling and ripping a sista apart seems to be the goal of a lot of hatful black women. Why? where is all this hate and jealous stuff coming from? I see it in action everyday at work. Sistas talking about each other and I don’t get it at all.
And I aint even getting on the two-faced sistas.
Don’t get me wrong I am not trying to knock my black sistas but enough is enough…..it is time to lift each other up not belittle and destroy each other.
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